How to Stay Calm and Relaxed in 15 Different Ways

Social media, advertising, music, television, and the internet have all overstimulated us. We have more options than our brain can handle, and the "noise" makes it easy to feel freaked out, anxious, nervous, strange, high-strung, and sketchy. Stress, worry, and tension are becoming commonplace, and most of us are so accustomed to being stressed, worried, and tense that we don't even notice when we're on edge.

Because we are not accustomed to being calm and relaxed, it is critical to learn how to become unusually calm, chilled out, and not let things get under your skin.

Calmness and Being Relaxed Communicates Confidence And Mental Strength 

Everyone feels "off," uptight, and uneasy when they are high-strung, anxious, nervous, and fidgety. However, remaining calm, cool, and collected makes you more approachable and likable. You set the standard for the temperament that others should naturally have, and you remind them to calm down, relax, and be cool – without saying anything.

Others are more likely to admire, look up to, and want to be more like you if you are unusually calm, cool, and collected. They will be more likely to want to be near you. Your poise and calm demeanor make others feel "safer," more comfortable, and secure.

Whatever is going on, my good friend Edwin remains extremely calm, and relaxed. NOTHING gets under his skin or causes him to become overly excited or anxious. As a result, everyone enjoys being around him, and everyone wishes to be his friend.

Women Prefer Men Who Are Calm, Cool, And Relaxed

Your composure and temperament makes them feel “safer”, happier, calmer, and more relaxed because you’re just so “cool” about everything. High-strung, stressed, worried, nervous, and anxious men freak women out and cause them to run away.

When given the choice, women prefer relaxed, cool, and calm men over men who can’t keep it together.

Being Calm Helps You Avoid Mistakes

“Cooler heads prevail” applies to every situation you will encounter. When you're stressed, worried, or freaked out, it's easier to make mistakes and make decisions that, in retrospect, aren't the best for the situation. It's critical to stay calm, cool, collected, and relaxed at all times so you can think clearly and not overreact to whatever is going on.

The majority of our mistakes are the result of being tense, anxious, and on edge, and we achieve the best results when we can remain calm, cool, and relaxed.

So, to get you started, here are 15 different ways to stay calm, and relaxed in any situation.

1. Stretch and Exercise

Getting in a good workout is probably the most important factor in remaining calm all day. When you don't exercise, stress and tension build up. 

If you're having a bad day and are frustrated and stressed, exercise for 30 minutes to an hour and you'll be calmer, more relaxed, more focused, and in a better mood. You will no longer be tense or stressed.

Highly active people, such as military members, athletes, and bodybuilders, are usually calmer and more relaxed than the general population because their bodies become accustomed to being in that “spent” and calm state. It is possible that it will become second nature to you as well.

You can also stretch when you wake up and when you go to bed. Stress not only exists in your mind, but it is also absorbed by your body. Consult a massage therapist.

When you stretch every muscle in your body thoroughly, you immediately feel calmer, cooler, more collected, and more relaxed. 

Furthermore, by keeping your muscles loose and limber, you reduce your risk of injury. It allows you to start your day faster and fall asleep more easily because you are naturally more relaxed.

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2. Clean Up Your Diet

The food you eat has a direct impact on your mood, performance, and mind. Junk food has been shown to increase irritability, frustration, and agitation. Healthy food that your body can easily digest gives you more energy, helps you focus, and helps you calm down and relax.

You will feel better, calmer, and more relaxed if you change your diet.

3. Sleep More

People who do not get enough sleep are less likely to be calm and relaxed, and more likely to be stressed, according to studies. According to studies, those who get enough sleep are calmer, more relaxed, and more successful. They have a greater sense of inner peace.

Love him or hate him, Tom Brady, the New England Patriots' starting quarterback, says getting enough sleep is a top priority for him. Even when accused of cheating, he remains calm, cool, collected, composed, and relaxed. 

Being suspended from games, and is rated the least liked quarterback in the NFL. Even when reporters are trying to get under his skin, it appears that nothing gets to him. Calm, cool, and collect allows him to focus and play better than, arguably, any quarterback ever before.

Adjust your schedule to get more sleep and adjust your sleeping environment for better-quality sleep.

4. Peaceful & Quiet Home

Calm, cool, collect, composed, and chill people design their lives – including their homes – to be calm and relaxed.

There is no TV, radio, or Bluetooth speaker constantly blasting, no one yelling and slamming doors, and there is no hostile environment in a gentle and quiet home. It's exactly what you need to stay calm and relaxed – quiet, peaceful, and laid-back.

If you live in a crazy and chaotic household, decide whether to move out or find somewhere peaceful to go to maintain your calm and peace of mind. If it's your wife and kids who are driving you insane, start working toward less chaos with them.

Screaming, slamming doors, or acting like a jerk is never tolerated in my home. It makes no difference who it is – the rules apply to everyone.

Get away from whatever suffocates your inner peace, or it will suffocate you. Create a calm and peaceful domain, territory, and environment.

5. Avoid Drama And Negative People

Calm people prefer to associate with other calm people. They don't associate with shady, nervous, and anxious drama queens.

In the eBook How To Talk To The Woman Of Your Dreams, you’ll learn that your mind soaks up your environment like a sponge and you become more like the people and things you spend time with.

Simply avoid the people and things that stress you out and cause anxiety to increase your chances of remaining calm and relaxed. 

If you have a bunch of dramatic and negative social media friends, unfollow, stop reading their comments and posts, or unfriend them. If you have a group of dramatic and negative friends, stop hanging out with them.

This applies to ANYTHING that interferes with your ability to remain calm and relaxed. Avoid hostile environments and situations, negative magazines and news sites, and negative and junk TV shows. You have the ability to control what influences your mind.

6. Avoid Procrastination

Waiting until the last minute adds unnecessary stress to your life. To keep your calm and peace of mind, do it now, calmly, rather than waiting until the last minute and letting it freak you out.

Procrastinators are constantly on edge, rushing, nervous, high-strung, and unable to remain calm. Those who are always calm understand that procrastination kills their mood. So they get it as soon as possible before it becomes a bigger problem.

7. Try Not To Stoop

When someone is freaking out, acting childish, immature, irresponsible, and completely ridiculous, it is a waste of time and energy to fight with them. Simply give them a blank stare until they're finished.

Don't react and let their behavior affect you. Don't yell back. Avoid returning the slurs. DO NOTHING.

Maintain your calm, cool, collected, and composed personality. The more you freak out, the more they freak out.

Always expect others to rise to your level and never react or respond when someone behaves in an unacceptable manner.

8. Get Your Priorities and Life In Order

Having your priorities and life in order is similar to performing preventive maintenance on your car – you are keeping yourself safe and avoiding catastrophe. You are performing preventive maintenance on your mind by allowing yourself to remain calm and relaxed. 

Instead of worrying about losing your job and not being able to pay your bills because you keep arriving late to work, you're taking charge, planning ahead, and dealing with it before it becomes a problem.

Being an adult is another term for it. You are calmer and less stressed when you have your act together and are disciplined. You've put in the time and effort to ensure that everything goes as planned, and as a result, you're less stressed and worried than the average person.

Make a list of your priorities and follow through on them. Write down where you're slacking and redirect the time and energy you're wasting on things that don't matter, like social media and watching TV, to things that do.

9. Choose Your Battles

When you're calm, cool, and collected, you don't fight everything that comes your way. You wisely analyze and decide what is and isn't worth your time.

Keeping your cool and composure entails letting go of minor details and reserving your energy and peace of mind for when it matters the most. 

If you're constantly battling minor issues, you won't have the energy or patience to invest when it really matters. You'll be exhausted and depleted. Conserve your energy. Keep your mind at ease.

10. Go With The Flow

You don't have to be behind the wheel all of the time. Calm, cool, and collected means you can lean back and enjoy the ride without being bothered by the fact that someone else is in charge.

It's more difficult to let go and let things happen when you're tense, nervous, high-strung, and suspicious.

In the film Fight Club, Brad Pitt, who is always calm and collected, tries to teach Edward Norton that he needs to let go and stop trying to be a control freak. He accomplishes this by releasing his grip on the steering wheel and allowing the car to crash. 

Brad Pitt is telling Edward Norton to "stop trying to control everything and just let go!" as he panics and grabs the steering wheel. Brad Pitt is attempting to teach him that bad things will happen in life and that it is important to just accept them. He's attempting to assist him in becoming less tense.

Stop being such a control freak in your life. Go with the flow of events and see where they lead you.

11. Do Everything Slower – Walking, Talking, Breathing, And Moving

Slow down your movements to increase your sense of calm. Slowing down the body causes the mind to slow down.

Even getting in the slow lane and driving slower allows you to relax, chill out, and calm down, whereas driving in the fast lane reduces your ability to relax.

Your mind will follow you as you walk, talk, breathe, and move more slowly. Yoga forces you to slow down and be still, which is why so many people swear by it to keep them calm, cool, collected, and relaxed.

Moving slower also conveys a greater sense of power, control, composure, and calm, making you more attractive.

12. Don’t Be in a Rush

The desire to complete tasks as quickly as possible detracts from your calm and relaxed state of mind. Because life is short and we want to accomplish a lot, urgency is important when it comes to goals, but it is not the same as rushing. 

Rushing increases the likelihood of making mistakes, stressing out, and being perceived as nervous, anxious, and uptight by others.

It has been proven that driving like a maniac and speeding only saves you 2 or 3 minutes on average. It is better to simply slow down, be safer, and reduce your chances of getting hurt, dying, and injuring or killing others.

If you absolutely must be in a hurry to complete everything, then adjust your to-do list and deadlines OR your schedule to accommodate what needs to be done. 

Many of us have a lot to do, but we waste time doing things that aren't necessary and then rush to catch up. The more time we waste, the further we fall behind, and the more we stress and rush, creating an endless cycle.

13. Stop Reacting to Stress

Life is stressful, and you are allowing it to prevent you from remaining calm, cool, and collected.

Everything you are and have is the result of some kind of stressful problem. The desire to eat is a stressful issue. The lack of adequate shelter is a stressful issue. 

EVERYTHING comes with a degree of stress, and it is wise to accept stress rather than reacting to it and fighting it. Reacting does not change or improve the situation. The only thing that reacting to stress does is increase your stress and make you appear tense, and unbalanced.

Instead of reacting and losing your cool when stressed, remember that stress is a natural part of life and that reacting to it is essentially a waste of time.

14. Control Your Emotions

When you are unable to control your emotions, you become tense – the polar opposite of calm, cool, collected, and relaxed.

When emotions arise and the desire to worry and stress arises, take the time to relax and remain calm.

The most common trait among ALL successful people is their ability to control their emotions than the average person. They keep a cool head at a stressful situations.

15. Remain Grateful

When you're unhappy with your current situation, where you're at, and what you're getting out of life, it's easy for negative feelings to cause anxiety and stress. Instead of worrying about what you don't have, where you aren't in your life, or what you aren't getting right now, make a conscious decision to express gratitude and be content with where you are right now.

• You may not have the big house you want, but at least you have a place to live.

• The big truck or fancy car you want may not be in the garage yet, but at least you have a way to get around.

• Your job may not be perfect, but at least you have one.

• The money may be tight and you can’t go on a vacation, but at least you have money to pay your bills.

• You may not be happy with the shape you’re in, but at least you have your arms, legs, fingers, and toes and you can improve your appearance.

You may not have everything you desire right now, but you do have everything you require. There is ALWAYS something for which to be thankful. Don't berate yourself or worry about where your life is going or what you don't have.

Be content with where you are, even if you want to go bigger and better. Every step of the way, take a look around and say to yourself, "I'm happy with this because I know it could be worse."

Final Thoughts

Your success and happiness will improve as you become calmer, cooler, and more relaxed. While others are stressed, tense, and anxious because they are thinking too much, doing too much, talking too much, moving too much, and worrying whether people like them or not, you are simply leaning back, enjoying yourself, and not burdening anyone by being stressed, tense, and anxious. When you're unusually relaxed and nothing bothers you, you definitely stand out.

No matter how much work you need to do on yourself, you can become calmer and more relaxed on your default level.

It takes conscious effort, repetition, and reminding yourself to relax, but it becomes second nature after a while, and others will strive to be on your level of calm, cool, and collected.

Being calm, cool, and relaxed always has advantages and no disadvantages.

Thanks for reading.